Boundaries, Protection and the Authentic Self.

The ‘me’ section of Gwyneth Paltrow’s excellent blog, Goop, has a feature on boundaries this month. It poses the question: “Why is it important to have personal boundaries and make sure they are not crossed”

There are some fascinating answers from Gwyneth’s regular contributors (which I’ll leave for you to peruse) including the very valid theory that if you are your authentic Self, you don’t need any boundaries. It struck a chord with me this month as that’s exactly what has been coming up for me.

I have a colleague who is entirely firm (if not a little strident!) about people not needing psychic or spiritual protection if they are balanced. Certainly any stray negative energy would think twice before pussy-footing up to her ... but just how balanced and authentic do you have to be not to get boulversé every now and then? I know I still check for negative energies and cleanse my aura regularly and I need to do so. And I can still be knocked for six by something unexpected. At least I could before my visit to my homeopath today... Muah-ha-ha-haaa

I think that we can be as authentic as humanly possible and still have holes in our aura that even the most loving people will poke (in fact, it’s their job to do so). Having learnt on a long and sometimes challenging road how to be prosperous and then how to be a teacher of prosperity consciousness, I certainly used to need boundaries around the question of money. For years I needed to avoid looking at images that would make me feel unhappy with my own situation. I kept away from events where I might feel less than prosperous and I didn’t dare look at celebrity news in case I felt resentful.

If you look carefully at most of the nay-sayers who have complained about the British royal wedding on 29th April, you can see that it's mostly issues about 'the taxpayer footing the bill for people who think they're important to have fun.' It's all projection around prosperity.

As I grew more abundant, I found that I didn’t need as many of these boundaries. I didn’t necessarily have that much more money than before; I just felt better about my situation. As soon as I stopped feeling such lack of worth in myself, other people’s physical or spoken expressions of wealth did not poke at me in the same way. Now I’ve written a whole novel (The Miracle Man – O Books) about the multi-billion-dollar celebrity world and the place of a Christ-figure within it. I’m quite happy with the concept of people (including me) having oodles and oodles of dosh and doing whatever they like with it.

But once I was over the prosperity issue, the hole-in-the aura just started turning up elsewhere. I created a situation where my professional writing work was criticized as somehow being ‘wrong.’ The critic was someone I loved and admired and that one took a while to heal too.

However, it alerted me to the fact that either holes in the aura can move or that it’s just one hole — the self-worth hole — manifesting in myriad ways to heal us at all levels. And I looked back over my life to previous situations where I’d been knocked flying to see whether that theory held water.

What I found will sound so simple to you but it blew my socks off: I realised that I had set up every single painful situation myself. Sometimes it was done at a deep subconscious level and at other times more obviously. Here are some examples.

I didn’t take any notice when my first husband told me he had had a malignant mole on his head; it never occurred to me that it would ever come back.

I forgot to query the fact that the bibliography section of one of my books wasn’t in the proof copy — I assumed that the publisher didn’t need it proofed.

I never for one moment assumed that the famous married older man who kept asking me out to dinner when I worked in TV actually fancied me; I thought he was just lonely in a new city until the day he made his move and I offended him deeply with my surprise.

I told myself I was being selfish when I didn’t want to turn my beautiful chapel and workshop room into a bedroom for an extra person who needed a place to stay for a couple of nights. I got away very lightly on that one which was a very good sign of recovery. But the error was still pointed out to me with an auric poke — albeit very gently.

What’s more, each of these taught me a valuable lesson once I was over the self-immolation and blame. They taught me that it was time to step up and own up and quit blaming anyone else.

In essence it all comes down to self-worth. If you value you, then others — and the Universe — will reflect that value back to you. And if you have self-worth, you don’t need protection or boundaries. You are inviolable.

There will almost certainly be areas where you value yourself more and areas where you value yourself less. But we can use the negative experiences to plot the ‘value map’ in our respective auras. Take a look — you’ll soon see the patterns.

‘But what about Jesus?’ you may say. ‘Surely he had self-worth, and look what happened to him?’

Yes indeed. But I believe that Jesus chose to walk into the valley of the shadow of death to fulfil his destiny. Great souls can do that. The way to tell if someone has walked with head high and open heart into what appears to be a terrible situation is whether they are at peace with forgiving those who harm them. Jesus definitely chose; he had three opportunities to walk away and each time chose to stay.

‘No one can make you feel inferior without your consent,’ said Eleanor Roosevelt. I don’t think that Jesus felt inferior for one second. And you can only feel inferior when there is a lack of self worth.

Well, what a surprise — money issues are about worth too ... so if your issue is financial, then there’s a hole in your aura trying to tell you something about your worth. Where is it that you do not value yourself? Where is it that you think others are more important than you are? Where are you not following your soul’s deepest desire? It will show itself to you (again and again), never fear. That’s one of the unsung jobs of the angels — to poke us in our wounds until we finally notice that it’s us not them.

Father, forgive them. It’s true that they know not what they do. How can they? They just walked into the hole in your aura.

So whoever or whatever is poking you, whether it’s the Royal Wedding, Simon Cowell, Donald Trump, Barak Obama, Katie Price, talent shows, soap operas, banks, ‘fat cats,’ politicians ... bless them and let them go. It’s not them; it’s you.

The Hawaiian technique ho’oponopono has a big piece of the answer. When you can say ‘I love you, I’m sorry, please forgive me, thank you’ to the person poking at that hole, you are threading the needle for a beautiful and effective darn that will hold your worth together for the rest of your life.


Tithing 101 - or Inspiration, Celebration, Everybody Else...

Spirit and Destiny featured my take on the Biblical teaching of Tithing this month. Here are more details on how and why this works so well.

Most people think that tithing is a Biblical command to give the first ten per cent of your earnings to charity. However, the system was invented to harness the Law of Attraction. It does address an order of giving when money comes in – but it is emphatic that this is in order to bless you and to bring prosperity back to you.

The word “tithe” means one tenth but in ancient days a tenth did not necessarily mean a tenth of all your income – because most people didn’t have an income! They dealt in trade and, as a general rule, a tenth was one whole thing – as in one whole chicken, one whole sheep, one fig, one cheese. In the modern world, it can mean one whole banknote or one whole coin. There’s no need to fear that you will be asked to give more than you can afford. One penny or one cent is a good first step in tithing. You can build up to the more traditional ten per cent if you want to (but only if you want to).

The order of tithing is simple:

1 Spiritual Tithe (Leviticus 27:30)

2 Celebration Tithe (Deuteronomy 12:6, 17-18; 14:22-27).

3 Charity Tithe, (Deuteronomy 14:28; 26:12) every third year only.

In the modern age, it means give 1/ towards Spiritual Inspiration. 2/ for celebration/gifts for yourself and 3/ to everybody else – including paying the bills.

In this way, you show the Universe your priorities. You want firstly inspiration (ideas and blessings to make your life happier), secondly fun and festivity and thirdly to be prosperous enough to pay your dues and help others.

How most people practise this form of tithing is to have a couple of attractive bags or boxes; one for the inspiration tithe and one for the celebration tithe. They place a little bit of money in the boxes first as soon as it comes in. That money can then be saved up to buy something special or spent immediately – the important thing is that it means you have taken power and are stating to the Universe that you expect a life of prosperity and not debt or fear.

Most people actually think that it's important to put charity or bill-paying first but, if you do that, then the Universe puts other people before you too — and will continue to do so. Focus on bills and you will receive more bills; focus on the world being in need and the world will continue to be in need. If you put inspiration first then you will find very swiftly that there is always money to give to others/pay the bills and to help the world from a place of prosperity and strength, but if you give to others/pay the bills first then there's never enough left for you...

Although the Bible talks about the first ten per cent being given to the Temple priests, this was because they were meant to be the source of inspiration to the populace. The priests did not have time to work for a living or tend flocks as they looked after the people’s religious needs. Nowadays, most priests are paid wages – and they may not be your source of inspiration. This is the key – what inspires you? What takes you closer to your own personal relationship with Divinity? Is it a book you’d like to buy? Is it a workshop you’d like to go to? Is it an inspirational teacher you’d like to hear? That’s where to put your money – and your angels and guides will give you more opportunities to be inspired in return. It may take you a few weeks to save up for what you want but the money is there, in the box or the savings account, telling the Universe clearly what your priorities are.

The celebration tithe was, originally, intended for people to be able to travel to Jerusalem for the great festivals four times a year. Everyone would all travel together as an extended family, or even as a village and, while in Jerusalem they would eat, drink, make merry and arrange marriages.

But the Old Testament is very clear that if you can’t get to Jerusalem you should spend the value of the tithe on a feast (including strong drink!) so it’s a clear message to have fun.

When I was stony broke I turned my life around with this system. At the time I could only afford to put 50p/$1 in each of the pots at a time but that did mean that I felt more abundant than if I didn’t have any hope whatsoever of getting a book to help me, a treat for supper or even a bar of chocolate.

Nowadays, I often use part of my spiritual tithe to buy a great bunch of white lilies for my chapel both because it's dedicated to St. Gabriel (who is patron of white lilies) and because just seeing those lilies inspires me. It’s entirely personal what inspires you. The festival tithe ensures, at the very least, that there is always a bottle of champagne and a pack of smoked salmon in the refrigerator.

Of course it's fine to use your spiritual tithe as a gift for others who inspire you but if you want to be prosperous, you will only be inspired by people who are already prosperous themselves so be sure you distinguish between giving from true inspiration and giving to support or help someone. That’s the third tithe, not the first one.

The tithing system is incredibly powerful. It tells the Universe what is important in your life. And it truly does work with 50p/$1. Of course you can give more if you want and you will want to as your financial prosperity increases.

There is also a fourth tithe in the Old Testament – the Sabbatical tithe. Every seventh year the land was rested and all debts forgiven. The land lay fallow so that it could replenish itself, and the people lived from the grain stock from the previous six years. They could do that because they were using the Law of Attraction to ensure that there would be abundant grain.

The forgiveness of debts is a lovely idea too. No one took on a debt for more than seven years – and although they were expected to make every effort to repay it, if they could not, the amount was forgiven and forgotten as part of the seventh year.

Nowadays, some of the more prosperous countries are forgiving Third World Debt. That can only be a good thing – and it’s evidence that this is primarily a good and abundant world, even if it takes us a little while to get round to the idea.

For those whose money goes directly into the bank, and whose bills go out via direct debit, all you have to do is go consciously into your bank account on the Internet when you know the money has gone in, and move some to new, named accounts. With online banking you can have as many current accounts as you like so if you have one called Inspiration and one called Celebration - or Play - or Delight. If you move money to them as soon as you consciously can, you are still sending a clear intent to the Universe that this is how you want your life to be even if you don't get there before the direct debits. You can either save the money for wonderful things, or spend it immediately; that's up to you.

Tithing works with time and attention as well. I seem to have a small farm to manage in the mornings nowadays so I make sure that I offer up a prayer of appreciation and have a handful of blueberries or some other treat before I feed dogs, cat, chickens, fish and anything else that may have moved in. It’s very simple but it shows the Universe my favoured order of life. I only have to forget and feed the others first and something always comes up to make it harder for me to take care of myself later in the day. Once you start this kind of work the Universe pays close attention and your guides/angels truly believe that you know what you are doing.

In the same way, when I open my computer in the morning and the emails come in, I always read the Abraham-Hicks inspirational note first, then the inspirational note, then any messages from friends and only then any work or financial emails. On some days that is still a challenge but it really makes the rest of the day flow much better.

It works too if I get stalled for any reason during the day or am over-thinking something. Stop; open a book of spiritual guidance (I have three by the desk) and read it and then have a treat — a biscuit, some grapes or a chocolate or perhaps I’ll get up and walk round the garden. Then my mind will have cleared and I can get back to whatever it was that was creating resistance.

Have fun with this. That's important. If it becomes a heavy duty then it will no longer work. The whole idea is that it is to lighten our attitude towards money and life so that the flow of abundance can strengthen to us and through us. And if you find this works, then please teach it on.


HEARTWORK. Using Spiritual Marketing to build your Heart's Desire into a successful business. Six-week webinar series with Maggy Whitehouse

HEARTWORK. Spiritual Marketing To Build your Heart's Desire Into A Successful Business.

This six-week webinar seminar with Maggy Whitehouse will help you transform your work into a business that can prosper both you and the world. It is both for those who don't want 'a proper job' but who want to bring spiritual gifts to humanity and for those who simply want to find the work that is also the joy of life.

When you follow your heart, you step out of the conventional world-view. What you are offering may be a pearl of great price — but most people shop more for food than they do for jewelry. Therefore, there is an important blend to be made between inner work that expands the soul, draws clients for healing and offers abundance for the heart and outer work that creates products to support cash-flow and everyday prosperity. Getting this meld just right is the secret to a successful holistic business.

Maggy's spiritual marketing and prosperity work is highly recommended by Joe Vitale, author of The Attractor Factor and Zero Limits.

Starting Date: Monday 2nd May 2011 for Six Weeks.

Price: £50. Enquiries:

But don't worry if you're late — this webinar will also be available as a series of MP3 downloads.

This six-week course is a magical blend of holistic and conventional business sense and marketing that is simple, practical, spiritual – and fun. What’s more, if you do it, it works. However, it’s important to understand that it won’t necessarily work in the way you expect it to. This brand of marketing gives the Universe permission to prosper you from all different directions as you do the work you were born to do. Yes, there will be direct returns too but understanding just how the Universe’s angels of prosperity will work with and for you is vital.

Maggy trained in conventional marketing with Dr. Roger Holdom, former Head of Marketing for BBC Radio 2 but was never comfortable with the aspect of ‘push, push, push.’ However, she has melded the aspects of conventional marketing which are simple and reliable with her own prosperity work in order to create a programme that is an holistic and effective blend of inner and outer work.

Maggy is the author of 16 books on prosperity, Kabbalah and other aspects of spirituality, including five spiritual novels. She is an international workshop leader, therapist and healer and lives and breathes the spiritual marketing techniques that she would love to share with you now.

Please note that all of these seminars contain visualisation work, therefore this is not a course suitable while driving or operating machinery.

Part One. Monday 2nd May

  • 'The Pearl of Great Price' — following your heart's desire in the workplace.
  • How spiritual marketing differs from conventional marketing.
  • Common subconscious resistances that scupper us, how to recognise and overcome them
  • When is it pushy and when is it thorough?
  • Before doing it, align with it
  • Why if it’s not fun, it can’t work. How to make it fun instead of duty
  • Why the Universe won't do it for you
  • Spotting the signs of what works and what doesn’t
  • What is your vision?
  • Commitment to yourself and to your work

Visualisation: Rooting yourself into the energy source and dissolving the blocks to self-nurturing

Part Two. Monday 9th May

  • Self-esteem and marketing
  • Know what you don't want — and what you do
  • Is this the work you were born to do? How do you know?
  • Do you know who actually wants what you are offering? Why would they want it? How can you draw them to you?
  • Your Unique Selling Point. What it is and how to find it
  • Why the business you start may not be the business you end up with
  • The Cosmic Chief Executive — sharing power and learning to listen to the divine advice
  • The Universe as your Personal Assistant
  • How to charge fairly and well
Visualisation: Mending the vessel and clearing ancestral curses. This visualisation will help with issues where money comes in - but flows out immediately.

Part Three.
Monday 16th May

  • Clearing your space — cleansing your work space and creating a vacuum to draw clients
  • Setting the example — where is the benefit of what you offer to others in your own life?
  • Personal and spiritual growth as a daily activity
  • The Free Lunch — swaps and exchanges
  • Fair bartering
  • Learning to receive
  • Attention-getting devices. Special offers and campaigns.
  • Multiple streams of income
  • The power of repetition
  • The power of prayer

Visualisation: The Tree of Abundance meditation to contact the Cosmic Internet

Part Four. Monday 23rd May

  • Setting yourself up for the day; taking care of you so that you can nurture others
  • The power of images
  • Creating an altar for your business
  • Tithing — time and money
  • Adding value. Healing resources that can support you and your work with clients.
  • Get therapy! Not only does that support your energy, it also creates a circular flow of money
  • Addressing financial beliefs and issues
  • What are your goals? Short term, medium term, long term. Do they align?
Visualisation: Who are the clients you want?
Visualisation: How you want your life and work to be next year and further in the future?

Part Five. Monday 30th May

  • Networking — what works and what doesn’t
  • The Internet: Social networking online and how to do it with integrity
  • Leaflets and business cards, the dos and don’ts
  • Pushing against, complaining and bitching. We all do it sometimes ... but we have to learn to stop
  • Supporting each other. Letting others point out what they see that may be blocking you
  • Freebies — when they work and when they don’t
  • Eliminating toxic giving
  • Understanding the Law of Allowing
  • Cosmic correction — letting the Universe hone and improve your services for you

Visualisation: The Inner Temple. Visiting your inner guidance for help in action, contemplation and allowing.

Part Six. Monday 6th June

  • Establishing yourself as an expert
  • Setting your vibrational tone
  • The Internet: websites, blogs, spreading the word
  • Radio and TV
  • E-courses and webinars
  • Tip sheets
  • CDs and MP3s
  • Articles and Letters to the Editor
  • Cosmic Ordering
  • Becoming visible in your community

Visualisation: Taking on the Wings of the Morning — mind-meld with Sachiel, angel of financial Prosperity, good fortune and kingship.

Dates: Monday 2nd May for Six Weeks. Price: £50. Enquiries:

HOW TO BOOK: Either email Maggy on or send her a message on Facebook. You will then be sent a PayPal invoice for £50 and details of how to log on to each webinar.

Thank you. We wish you prosperity, health and joy.


Prosperity Teachers

If you are looking for a qualified Prosperity Teacher in your area — for a personal session, for a talk or for a workshop, please contact the following people. They are listed alphabetically in order of area.


Denise Cunningham. Email:

Deborah Lovell. 
Deborah is an holistic body worker and NLP coach originally from a corporate background. She currently provides Reflexology and Aromatherapy and life coaching, prosperity mentoring to women and men to experience a more enjoyable life.
After many years involved with emotional release techniques Deborah incorporates tools from the Sedona Method and the Journey to help individuals live a happier life with more abundance & bliss.
She is a trained coach and has studied mentoring, counselling skills and uses over 10 years experience to conduct workshops around the UK and 1 to 1 sessions by phone or face to face.


Co. Durham
Havovie Bomanji
Skype ID: Havovie
Tel: 01388 814777 and 07971 886335.
Havovie is available for both individual or group sessions and will also travel to meet clients as well as talking on Skype. She was a qualified dispensing optician, but after living overseas In Pakistan for a few years embarked on her own international export business which she ran successfully for seven years. 
She has considerable insight and empathy for Asian women's issues and is currently writing a series of Angel books for children. Havovie also leads workshops in Dubai and Pakistan.


Lesley Kempster
Tel: 01371 850645.
Lesley is primarily a Child Behaviour Counsellor with extensive experience in counselling both children and parents. She is available for individual and group sessions.
1 Stores Cottages, Shalford Braintree CM7 5HH. 

South London (Croydon)
Winniefred Carneiro MA. 
Tel: 07952 753 916 (m). 0208 656 7869 (home). Email:
Winniefred is a Psychotherapist, Metaphysical Counsellor, Healer and Complementary Therapist working in an eclectic and intuitive manner in private practice since 1997. She is a licenced workshop facilitator who works with individuals and groups putting into practice many different philosophies. She is available to see clients in Croydon and London and will travel by arrangement to outside areas.

South London (Epsom)
Eleana Needham 
Tel: 01737 352 351
Eleana is an experienced and powerful homeopath, a Reiki Master teacher and a maker of healing essences.
She describes herself as "A seeker, a finder, a pathfinder, who has spent just over half a century on this beautiful Earth, has ailed and healed and learned how to find
The Way through twists and turns, floods and rocks, ups and downs, meadows and woods, cities and valleys."

Brendan Johnson:
Call 07779 247175, or 01926 854585 or Skype Brendan_m_johnson.

Brendan is a coach, counsellor, and Interfaith Minister who is happy to work  with clients face to face within a reasonable distance of his base in Kenilworth, or by phone or Skype anywhere. He is passionate about helping people to fully realise their potential. 

Becky Jones:
Tel: 01926 854585; Skype: becky_jones_
Location: Kenilworth, Warwickshire
One-to-one phone or Skype counselling by appointment, quarterly workshops from Autumn 2011 and subject to sufficient demand, an ongoing support / networking group.  May travel to clients by agreement.

Becky has been enquiring into the spiritual aspect of Prosperity for some 3 years since she first met Maggy and was inspired by its obvious potential for  working at the roots of our relationship with the Divine.  Since then, she's been training as an Interfaith Minister and Spiritual Counsellor, ordained in July 2011.

West Midlands (Stourbridge)
Sue MacLusky.
Sue is a certified ‘Laughter Yoga’ teacher, advanced Massage/Bodywork trainer and Holistic Therapist and a freelance writer. Tel: 07810 578 075. Email:

West Midlands (Walsall)
Ronnie Ryder
Ronnie is an experienced Tutor who has taught adults for many years. She majored in Psychology and is pracices in Reflexology, Aromatherapy, Indian Head Massage and Swedish Body Massage.
Ronnie specialises in helping people with prosperity wheels/dream boards and is happy to do both individual and group sessions. She lives on the border of North Birmingham and South Walsall.
Tel: 01922 615847. Email:

Barbara Palmer.

Value for Money; Value for Life.

Let’s start by defining “Value” (OED): Value: c.1300, from Old French value "worth, value" (13c.), noun use of fem. pp. of valoir "be worth," from Latin valere "be strong, be well, be of value."

Now let’s take a look at a couple of quotations:

"Is devotion to others a cover-up for the hungers and needs of the self, of which one is ashamed? I was always ashamed to take. So I gave. It was not a virtue. It was a disguise" — Anaïs Nin.

“There are many insidious ways that we betray ourselves. Self-sacrifice is one of the most popular ones for women because it’s condoned by society. ‘What a good woman you are, offering yourself up on the altar of self-abuse.’” Sarah ban Breathnach.

When are we offering “good value?”

When we are strong and well, that’s when.

How do we stay strong and well? By valuing ourselves.

This last month I spent more than four hours on the phone listening to people with problems who wanted free help and advice for situations that had been building to crescendo in their lives for months and perhaps even years. They had reached the end of the rope and were in dire need and picked up the telephone to ask for me.

And I listened and gave advice. For free. Even though I have deliberately put enough information on my Pure Prosperity website to help anyone start turning their life around including a one-hour free webinar. Even though I have trained prosperity teachers to run groups and help others. There are four years of articles here on my blog, not to mention You Tube videos and a free Facebook Fan Page for prosperity issues.

Did I offer them value? Heck yes. In doing so, did I value myself? No. Even after all these years, I fell down the trap of self-sacrifice. Darn!

February and March have been busy months with weekend workshops, webinars and up to four nights a week teaching as well. That was fine; in fact it was great fun. It would have remained fine without that all-too-frequently missed series of last straws. So now I’m sitting on the sofa, wrapped up in a blanket with a cough and a cold simply because I didn’t know when or how to say “no.” Completely and utterly my responsibility.

In a small way, by listening to their woes and allowing them to dump their negative energy, I was doing exactly what they had done to create their own situations — going one step too far (and then another) before stopping and taking care of myself. And it’s the series of small things that creates the big things...

“So why are you writing your prosperity article now?” You say (quite rightly). “Why are you doing something else for free?”

Good point.

Firstly, I’m doing it because I love writing. I love writing. If I were shipwrecked on a desert island, I’d write a novel in the sand and carve another in the rocks. This is my passion so it’s one way I value myself. When I’m writing, I don’t answer the phone at all.

Secondly, I’m doing it to take a stand. And I’d love you to consider taking the same stand too. I’m doing it to say to me (and to the world), “Enough is enough!”

There is enough free advice out there for anyone (just look at the Abraham YouTube videos; just look at Byron Katie’s Work; just look at my work). If you want any further advice, then book an appointment with a therapist and pay. That way you know that the person you book with values his or herself — and they know that you value yourself enough to commit do doing something for yourself. And if you don’t have the money, start learning the commitment to yourself by starting the search online and actually doing some of it instead of asking another to do it for you.

It’s called discernment; self-discipline; self-respect. For you. And for them.

Is it called ‘selfish’? Probably yes, by some. But anyone who accuses you of selfishness will be the one who needs to learn this art for his or her self too. If anyone tells you that you are selfish, tell them “No, I am valiant.” (defined as "stalwart, brave," originally "be strong," from Latin valere "be strong, be well, be worth, have power, be able,"

You are worthy; you are strong; you are well; you have worth.

Value it.

Value for money.

Value for Life.

Time For Some Not Fake Food.